The Burdens We Carry

Good Morning Everyone and welcome to 'Dee's Thoughts'. I am reminded this morning of the burdens of life. We all have them-family, health, loss, finances and relationships. But I also know we can carry more than we should at times. What is a burden? It is something that is emotionally difficult to bear, a source of great worry or stress; weight.

Some burdens are meant to be SHARED, some burdens are meant to be SHOULDERED, and some burdens are meant to be SHED.

We all have burdens, some of these burdens can be Physical, some Spiritual, and some are Emotional, such as depression or anxiety, a heartache over some loss, or financial hardship. 

Choices are something we make every day, but not all choices are equal. Deciding which pair of shoes to wear or whether to give your phone a quick charge on the way to work are definitely choices. Yet there are those choices that are so difficult to make that they can be paralyzing. Rather than committing to a decision we muddle over the choice until it impacts our life negatively or the choice is no longer an option. 

According to experts the more choices you have in front of you the harder it is to make the difficult ones. They suggest that for those that have difficult choices in front of them or life changing options that have both pros and cons basically equal to eliminate the smaller choices.

Some are meant to be shared---We are supposed to encourage/strengthen one another when it comes to faults and failures.. Some are meant to be shouldered---There are some burdens which no one else can help you with. Sometimes the choices we make are not the wisest but we have to take ownership of the choices we do make. It does no good to beat ourselves up when we make a wrong choice but we don't have to make the same choice again!

Jesus said, Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. Galatians 6:2. We don't have to carry our burdens and problems alone, but we do have to humble ourselves and reach out to others and to God for help.

 

 

 

 

Are You Listening?

Good Morning Everyone and welcome to ‘Dee’s Thoughts’. How do you feel when you are trying to communicate to someone and they are not listening?  It can be most frustrating can’t it?

Listening is not the same as hearing, hearing alone is impersonal, listening is personal! To be a good listener, we must, first pay attention. When we don’t listen we create feelings such as Annoyed, frustrated, discounted, rejected, anxious or angry? Such feelings usually make communication more difficult. So how can we show someone who is speaking that we really are paying attention to them? We can do this both nonverbally and verbally.

Research shows that about 85% of what we communicate is nonverbal that includes our posture, eye to eye contact and facial expressions. Knowing when to be silent can be a powerful communication tool. Silence allows others to become aware of their own feelings and gives them freedom to express without being pressured.

If we are to become good listeners we cannot be intimidated by silence! This is the obstacle we all have to overcome-- is to be able to stop doing all the talking and give others the space to open up and share. Listening is an expression of love and can heal many wounds.

Have a great day

Dee   

Be Patient with one another

 

Good Morning Everyone and welcome to Dee’s Thoughts. I am reminded this morning of how difficult it can be at times to show patience. We may know we should and we want to be patient, but at any given moment something happens and our patience is being challenged! Why is it so difficult? We have all heard of this statement: Lord, give me patience . . . and I want it right now!

Patience is a rare and remarkable virtue that comes with a price. In the Greek, patience is not used in regard to things or events, but rather, people. It is a compound word that means "long or far," and also "hot, anger, or wrath." Putting it together, we come up with "long-anger." You've heard the English expression, "short-tempered"? Well, I suppose we could coin an expression for patience—long-tempered—and not miss the accurate meaning very far.

So how do we practice ‘patience’? The secret is found through ‘endurance’ As we endure through life’s challenges we will reap the fruit of ‘patience’.  Job is an example of enduring under the load of suffering. He determined that he would "abide under" the blast furnace of affliction regardless of its heat. The result was patience. If we let endurance do it’s work in us, all the dross will rise to the top to be skimmed off,. like the purifying process of raw gold. That explains why Paul says that trials and tribulations bring about patience and perseverance within us (Romans 5:3–4).  Lord, have your way in our hearts.

Blessings, Dee

Where Is The Escape Plan?

Good Morning Everyone and welcome to “Dee’s Thoughts”. Most of us if not all of us, at one time or another have just wanted to ‘escape,’  to just get away from people, obligations, problems, etc. life is just too hard and we want to run away! All of us can identify with this feeling to ‘run’ and many of us have tried to from time to time. Most of the time, when we try to escape we don’t have a plan and don’t know where we are going but it doesn’t seem to matter at the time, we just want to make all the pressures of life go away!

We all need a break from the problems and pressures of life and need to get away for a little while to rejuvenate. For me, it is to get in my car and drive all alone with no one with me, it is therapeutic! The thing is though, we still have to come back and face things that we may not want to face. 

See, the truth is, there is really not an ‘escape plan’ that can fix all our problems and when we try to escape (emotionally) or run away from others, those same problems are still there just waiting for us when we return. Usually ‘running’ implies a ‘loss of direction and purpose in life’. We cannot escape and end up running around in circles more confused than before.   

So, let us all run at top speed with a purpose and a direction that leads us to the loving arms of Jesus. We will not be disappointed. Philippians 2:16..Hold firmly to the word of life; then, on the day of Christ’s return, I will be proud that I did not run the race in vain and that my work was not useless.

Keep Running the race!

Blessings, Dee                                                                                

"Where is the escape plan?"

 

Good Morning Everyone and welcome to “Dee’s Thoughts”. Most of us if not all of us, at one time or another have just wanted to ‘escape,’  to just get away from people, obligations, problems, etc. life is just too hard and we want to run away! All of us can identify with this feeling to ‘run’ and many of us have tried to from time to time. Most of the time, when we try to escape we don’t have a plan and don’t know where we are going but it doesn’t seem to matter at the time, we just want to make all the pressures of life go away!

We all need a break from the problems and pressures of life and need to get away for a little while to rejuvenate. For me, it is to get in my car and drive all alone with no one with me, it is therapeutic! The thing is though, we still have to come back and face things that we may not want to face.  

See, the truth is, there is really not an ‘escape plan’ that can fix all our problems and when we try to escape (emotionally) or run away from others, those same problems are still there just waiting for us when we return. Usually ‘running’ implies a ‘loss of direction and purpose in life’. We cannot escape and end up running around in circles more confused than before.   

So, let us all run at top speed with a purpose and a direction that leads us to the loving arms of Jesus. We will not be disappointed. Philippians 2:16..Hold firmly to the word of life; then, on the day of Christ’s return, I will be proud that I did not run the race in vain and that my work was not useless.

Keep Running the race!

Blessings, Dee                                                                                

You Can Depend On Me!

Good Morning Everyone and welcome to “Dee’s Thoughts”. I so enjoy hearing from you, keep the notes coming. As a reminder, we have started on Monday’s at Emmanuel Fellowship a new class called “Running Against The Wind”. You can come in at any time so if you are interested it is on Monday mornings from 9:30-11:30.

I am reminded this morning just how important it is to me to be a dependable person, how about you? What does it mean to be dependable?   Definition—Quote: Dependability is a character trait that is shown by a person who has a habit of being trustworthy and reliable in word and behavior to do what is right.

 There are many things in life that are considered dependable, or faithful. The sun rises every morning, and sets every evening. The tide comes in, and the tide goes out. The government taxes and spends, and then taxes and spends some more. You can count on it. The wisest man who ever lived, Solomon, asked a profound question in Proverbs30:6 it says, Many a man claims to have unfailing love, but a faithful man who can find?

My question to you is this, are you a person other’s can depend on, do you keep your promises? To be dependable does not mean “we have to make everything right or have all the answers”, it just means we do what we say we will do and live a life of honesty! The best that we can do is learn from our mistakes and try to improve ourselves as individuals. Being a trustworthy person is difficult, but it is often the kind of character that other people want to be around and aspire to be.

 Let us be that person.

Blessings, Dee

Digging Deep

"The poor and needy search for water, but there is none; their tongues are parched with thirst .But I the Lord will answer them; I, the God of Israel, will not forsake them. I will make rivers flow on barren heights, and springs within the valleys. I will turn the desert into pools of water, and the parched ground into springs." Isaiah 41:17-18

Good Morning Everyone and welcome to ‘Dee’s Thoughts’. We have all at one time or another found ourselves feeling like’ we have nothing more to give’. I am sure you have found yourself in that season at some point or perhaps you are feeling that way right now.

When I was young and living on the farm, our parents had to dig a well in order to have water. In fact, there were 2 wells, one for us and one for the livestock. Water was a necessity, without it there would be no provisions. We were dependent on well water for our personal existence, and the rain from heaven for the crops to grow.

Water is life, without it we die. This is also true of not just our human state, but also our spiritual state. Our thirst for water and need for water is also true spiritually. Matthew 5:6 says, “Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled.

To find water we have to dig deep, the deeper we go the fresher the water. For most all of us we have times of dryness where our hearts and souls are parched and in need of fresh water, or it may be we are going through a loss or grief and our hearts are in need of refreshment. For others they may have never experienced God’s love and peace in their lives and need a touch from Him.

The Lord promises us that he will turn our deserts into pools of water and our parched ground into springs of living water that brings new life. Ask and you will receive from God but ask we must! We cannot wish and it into existence or just wait and see what will happen…ASK AND RECEIVE it is that simple.

 Be Refreshed, Blessings Dee

Life's Trials

Good Morning Everyone and welcome to Dee's Thoughts. I am reminded everyday of all the hurt and pain all of us experience and face in this journey of life. Life's tests, temptations and painful experiences are challenging to say the least and non of us like to go through difficult times. When things seem to difficult to handle or to hard to face we are tempted to pull away, shut down, or just want to give up. But there is another way, a better way of looking at these things. Are we going to let them destroy us or are we going to learn from them and let our disappointments and failures work for good in our lives. Charles Swindoll addresses this in such a wonderful way.   

Charles Swindoll says it like this, (Quote) ..By accepting life's tests and temptations as friends—by allowing them to enter our private world and produce the rare quality of endurance—we become people "of mature character." There is no shortcut. The idea of instant endurance is nonsense. The pain brought on by interruptions and disappointments, by loss and failure, by accidents and disease, by changes and surprises, is the long and arduous road to maturity. There is no other. One thing bumps up against another, which in turn bumps another, and during the process, endurance helps us mature. Periodically, however, we will find ourselves at a loss to know what to do or how to respond—that's when we ask for help. At those junctures, God delivers more than intelligence . . . much more than clever ideas and good ol' common sense. He dips into His well of wisdom and allows us to drink from His bucket.

Have a great Day, Dee