Letting go

Good Morning Everyone and welcome to ‘Dee’s Thoughts.’ As Christians ‘letting go and letting God’ is a phrase most of us are familiar with. But most of us would also agree that ‘the act of letting go’ is easier to say than it is to put into action.

I have been a Christian since 1972 and I can tell you from experience that saying we need to let go and let God is not an easy thing to do at times, yet the Bible addresses this a lot. It seems that the more difficult and personal the trial the more difficult it is to let go. So why is this?

“Let go and let God” is a phrase that popped up some years ago and still enjoys some popularity today. Actually, the Bible never tells us to “let go and let God.” In fact, there are so many commandments about what we are to do that it completely contradicts the way most people interpret “let go and let God.” Luke 13:24 says, Work hard to enter the narrow door to God’s Kingdom, for many will try to enter but will fail.

The popular idea of “letting go” is to adopt a sort of spiritual tendency to remain fixed or unchanging wherein we do nothing, say nothing, feel nothing, and simply live, allowing circumstances to roll over us however they may. But this is a passive outlook not an action outlook. And this is not what God’s Word says.

The Christian life, however, is a spiritual battle which the Bible exhorts us to prepare for and wage diligently. Examples---“Fight the good fight of faith” (1 Timothy 6:12); “Endure hardship . . . like a good soldier of Christ Jesus” (2 Timothy 2:3); “Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes” (Ephesians 6:11). Letting go, in the sense of sitting back and watching events unfold however they may, is not biblical.

 Having said that, we have to understand that the things we are to do, we do by the power of God and not in our own efforts. The truth is that working at “letting go” is just as much of an effort-filled work as anything else if we are doing it apart from God and not nearly as easy to do as one may think.

So what about this “letting go”? Many people believe that, if we are truly in a state of “letting go,” we will be able to cease from striving and struggling. Furthermore, when we struggle, we assume the problem is that we are not letting go and letting God. So how do we let go? We let go by letting God have control of it, by trusting in Him and in His plan and purposes for each one of us.

There is also a positive reason for struggling—it is good for us and is God’s plan to grow and mature us into the people He wants us to be. Struggles are just one of the ways He strengthens us for the hard things life throws at us. Each one enables us to be stronger and better able to handle the next one. Letting go is a good thing!!

Blessings--Rest in Peace

Dee

 

How do I measure up?

And you have forgotten that word of encouragement that addresses you as sons: “My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, and do not lose heart when he rebukes you, because the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes everyone he accepts as a son.

Hebrews 12:5

Good Morning Everyone and welcome to “Dee’s Thoughts”. I have asked myself this question and I am sure you have to. How do I measure up? This was a way of thinking I struggled with for years in my life and perhaps you have to or still do. Have you ever felt like this—“Do others love me for who I am?” “Discipline feels like punishment,” “Fear of what others will think,” well this is just a few examples but you see where I am going!

How well do you take criticism or correction? For many of us it is something we can struggle with and don’t handle very well. I didn’t use to because criticism meant to me that I was not measuring up!  We can either get defensive or ignore it. I was one of those people who would get defensive when someone would try and correct me about something. I didn’t understand why but now I do.

 I would take it personal. To me, correction was about what I was doing and came across as an attack on who I was as a person! I felt like (the motive of my heart) was being attacked when I was being corrected and I could never do anything right. Ever feel like that?  Now, I have come to realize that way of thinking and reacting was coming from my past and it was a character flaw in my life that needed to be corrected and redefined. God takes these character flaws seriously in our lives and wants to correct them so that we can grow and mature in a healthy way.

 Well, I am a prime example of how God can change a life! That is not me today. That timid insecure person is gone. He took a little farm girl, transformed her and called her to himself. We all have parents who raised us and disciplined us the best way they knew how. Perhaps at times that discipline did not feel very loving but we have all fallen short of doing everything just right.

 The point being—do we always do everything right? Of course we don’t and we should not expect that from others or from ourselves. God does not discipline us as our earthly parents did instead, his discipline is always done in love intended for our good, to correct us not to punish us. This kind of love can only come from God.

 If you struggle with your value and worth and pull away from God when you fear you are not measuring up, you are not alone. But take it from me (it is curable). Our value and worth comes from God not from man and He is in the business of transforming us into his image not our image. God knows our weaknesses and is patient with us. There is no safer place than in the arms of Jesus, He loves us just the way we are.

 Have a wonderful day, Dee

 

what is really good for me?

Good Morning Everyone and welcome to Dee’s Thoughts. Love your comments thank you for them. I believe that “Dee’s Thoughts” should primarily reflect my own life experiences as they are more personal and not just mere words that many times we don’t identify with. Saying that, I think that most of us would agree that “we (I ) more than anyone else think we know what is best for us”.

Well, not so much!! Why is that? Well for one thing, what I think is good for me is usually focused on what “I want”, “What makes me feel good at the time,” and or “does this make me happy”? All of which is not necessarily good for me. Also, this is a very human approach feeling and thinking this way because I want these things and we usually go for the things we want. Right?

I was reading in Psalm this morning and came upon a Scripture that said, “I am the Lord your God, who teaches you what is good for you and leads you along the paths you should follow. I used to be a very independent person and was very sure I didn’t need any help from anyone else, I would work it out myself! That was my way of thinking. Well, life has a way of showing up and blowing that concept right out of the water.

This has been a long process in my life of realizing and undoing this concept of thinking I can or even have to do it on my own. But this has changed. Difficult times financial, emotional and loss has a way of tearing down that wall of independence and the need for help. The only thing my independence gave me was even “more determination to make it on my own.”  Did I know what was good for me NO! Do you always know what is good for you?

I love how this Scripture say’s God teaches us what is good for us and leads us along the path we should follow, this gives me peace! I am grateful that God has a path for all of us to follow and that path will be good for us in every way. It is better to be taught what is good for us than what we think is good for us. We are all on different paths but be confident that God loves us and has a path that will lead us all the way to its final destination HOME.  

Blessings and love

Dee

Keep your eyes on the path

Let your eyes look straight ahead, fix your gaze directly before you. Make level paths for your feet and take only ways that are firm. Do not swerve to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil. proverbs 5:25-27

Good Morning Everyone and welcome to “Dee’s Thoughts”. I have been on many road trips as I am sure you have. But there have been times when I was very confident I was heading in the right direction only to find out that I wasn’t, and needed to change the course I was taking. We all make mistakes and I have been grateful for those times of re-correcting the path I was on or I would not have reached the destination I was heading for. Or at least, not in a timely fashion! This applies to life situations but let’s look at it from a spiritual perspective as well..

 So how do we get off track at times? We may think we are on the right path, then one day we find ourselves asking the question ”what am I doing”  “where am I going”? That which I was so sure of now doesn’t feel right anymore.

Where did I take a wrong turn? Have I become discouraged and tired? Is this path I am on taking me in a different path that I was originally sure I was to take?  It may be some of these reasons or none of them, but the truth is I am not sure now if I am  on the right me path anymore. Well, perhaps we need to ask ourselves this question…Is the path I am on my idea or God’s?

God promises to level out our paths (removing all obstacles) that would cause us to stumble or take a different path other than the one we are on. He does this because He wants us to succeed and reach our destination. Being confident of this, he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. Philippians 1:6.

It doesn’t hurt to re-evaluate our path from time to time this is healthy. To worry is another story. Worry is just a reminder asking us “have we forgotten who is really in control”? Make sure your path is God’s and not yours this is key in keeping us focused on the future and not the past. So, if we have gotten off course, don’t worry---be confident of this, that the Lord knows about it and He will get you back on the right path. How do we know this? Because he says so!

Blessings and Peace, Dee

 

 

 

Ho do i measure up?

Good Morning Everyone and welcome to “Dee’s Thoughts”. How do I measure up? That was a way of thinking I struggled with for years in my life and perhaps you have to or still do. Have you ever felt like this—“Do others love me for who I am?” “Discipline feels like punishment,” “Fear of what others think,” well this is just a few examples but you see where I am going! 

How well do you take criticism or correction? For many of us it is something we struggle with and don’t handle very well.  We either get defensive or ignore it. I was one of those people who would get defensive when someone would try and correct me about something. I didn’t understand why but now I do.

 I took it personal. To me, correction was about what I was doing and came across as an attack about who I was as a person! I felt like my identity was being attacked when I was being corrected and I could never do anything right. Ever feel like that?  Now, I have come to realize that way of thinking and reacting was coming from my past and it was a character flaw in my life that needed to be corrected and redefined .God takes these character flaws seriously in our lives and wants to correct them so that we can grow and mature in a healthy way.

Well, I am a prime example of how God can change a life! That is not me today. That timid insecure person is gone. He took a little farm girl, transformed her and called her to himself. That was October 10 1972 and I have never been the same.

 We all have parents who raised us and disciplined us the best way they knew how. Perhaps at times that discipline did not feel very loving but we have all fallen short of doing everything just right. God does not discipline us thought as our earthly parents did, instead, his discipline is always done in love intended for our good, to correct us not punish us. This kind of love can only come from God.

 If you struggle with your value and worth and pull away from God when you fear not measuring up, you are not alone. He is in the business of transforming us into his image not our image. God knows our weaknesses and is patient with us. There is no safer place than in the arms of Jesus, don’t run away, run to Him he will be there waiting!

Blessings and Peace, Dee

 

 

 

A loss for words

Good Morning Everyone and welcome to ‘Dee’s Thoughts.’ Thank you for your notes and words of encouragement I so love hearing from you. Have you ever experienced times when no matter what you say or do doesn’t seems to matter or be received well from others? Even with the best of intentions words can appear to fall to the ground bearing no fruit at all in the life of another person.

Well, let me tell you a story! I felt lead to go on a Mission Trip a few years ago to Haiti. I thought I was going to be a part of a Medical team as I had experience in that area. Well, my idea of how that would play out was not what I thought it would look like. As the days rolled by it was becoming more and more clear to me that my mission was not what I thought the Lord had in mind. I was feeling disappointment and began to question why I was on this team at all!.

Getting close to the end of the trip, we were doing a clinical time with the locals and I was helping. There were lots of people coming and receiving help when one of the nurses brought to me an older lady to try and comfort as they could not see an immediate problem.

The only thing they could get from her was, she said, “her heart hurt”. They also told me that she had lost 3 daughters in a very short period of time. Now, at the time I did not have an interpreter, So, I sat down with her and put my arms around her and she laid her head on my chest and  just began crying and talking (of course I could not understand her). I felt so helpless because I did not know what she was saying but the Lord did and he gave me words from the Spirit to pray for her. The more I prayed the  harder she cried. God met her that day and healed her heart of the pain and loss she was carrying. It was a miracle!

My mission field in Haiti was this woman and when I did not know what to do or say the Lord bypassed our language barriers and He touched her in a mighty way. This grieving woman had lost all of her family, she did not have a physical heart issue but a broken heart issue. For me, I stand amazed that a loving God would send me to an unfamiliar land many miles away to  minister to one broken hearted woman who he wanted to show his compassion and love to.

in “my loss for words” God showed me just how far His great compassion and healing reaches others. God always has a plan even when we don't see it. Our prayers and words for others do have meaning and God will use our obedience and willingness to let Him use us make a difference.

Blessing and Love, Dee

Waiting on the green light

Good Morning Everyone and welcome to Dee’s Thought’s. love hearing    from you, thank you for your comments. Waiting is something we all struggle with at times right? We have a busy day with lots of things we need to do and not enough time to do them. Nothing can be more frustrating than long lines of traffic creeping slowly from one light to another.

We see the green light ahead and think I will make this one, then it’s orange and before you know it is Red. Oh no, now I have to wait again before I get another green light!  This is the life we live in these days always waiting for the green light that never seems to come fast enough.

This also applies to our spiritual life! When we find ourselves at a crossroad, we are wise to wait until we get a green light before we move ahead. But it is tempting to run ahead of God isn’t it? Sometimes God just seems to be taking too long to get back to us!

Whenever I have tried to move ahead of God’s perfect timing, I’ve always ended up regretting it. When there is no clear green light, God wants us to wait. David, the man after God’s own heart encouraged us to be patient. “Wait on the Lord, be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart, wait, I say, on the Lord!” Psalm 27:14

Only God knows the road that lies ahead. So when we are not sure what to do, let’s choose to wait on the lord in faith and do nothing. As J.I. Packer wrote, “When action is needed, light will come.”  Let’s look at the red lights as a means of testing our patience to wait on the Lord.

All is well, Blessings, Dee

When I feel all alone

Good Morning everyone and welcome to Dee’s Thought’s. Thank you for reading these blogs and please shoot me a line whenever you can I love hearing from you.

I know there are times when we have all felt alone even when we have others around us. Ever feel that way? I think all of us have at one point or another. We find ourselves in a dark place and wonder why do I feel so lost --God where are you?

When we allow circumstances to be the indicator of whether Christ is with us, we may start panicking when the sea starts getting rough. Mark described an incident like that in chapter 4 of his gospel. We know the story of the disciples crossing the Sea of Galilee with Jesus and, tired from a day of teaching, He fell asleep. As the sea became rougher and rougher (like out circumstances), the men began to panic, just like us! They wake up Jesus and said, “Teacher, don’t you care that we are going to drown?

In verse 35, we see where the disciples missed what he had said to them, which was, “let’s cross to the other side of the lake.” (together) He didn’t say “let’s get halfway across and drown”. Jesus knew they would survive the stormy sea.

When times are rough we can easily lose sight of the promises of God and doubt that He is with us. The Christian life is a lot like that boat ride. Christ has told us where we are going, but sometimes in the midst of the journey we don’t feel His presence and we can only see the over-whelming storms.

If you are in a storm right now and have lost sight that Jesus is with you, don’t panic!  He is still in the boat with you, He promises to never leave us or forsake us. He will get you to the other side. Storms come and go but remember, He is in the storm!

Peace, Peace

Blessings, Dee