Lesson 4..Hidden Issues of Anger Exposed

Good Morning Friends

Today we will continue to reveal the hidden issues behind anger and how they affect our heart. lets begin:

                                        How do these “hidden issues” affect our heart?

 ◘          Emotions and feelings become repressed and the heart grows coldHope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life. Proverbs 13:12. Repressed feelings and emotions causes our heart to become sick inside and grow cold towards others and God. Why? Because within our emotions lies the pain and loss of broken relationships.

Our heart grows cold and distant because these issues are still alive and well and still having an impact on how we act and behave toward others. Hidden issues are many times directly related to 'unresolved wounds' that we are still carrying towards those who have hurt us. In order for us to be free from these wounds we will need to give that hurt and pain to God and let Him heal us. He who conceals his hatred has lying lips, and whoever spreads slander is a fool. Proverbs 10:18.

◘          Fear dominates love. You are my hiding place; you will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance. Psalm 32:7. Fear is a strong emotion and it will cause us to panic and make rash decisions without thinking things through before acting.

Being afraid and living in fear are two different things. We can feel afraid when something happens that takes us by surprise or is a potential threat. It is normal in these situations to be afraid. But the feeling of being afraid will usually pass when the immediate threat is removed. 

Living in fear can be related to past traumatic experiences, or in present situations where you or those close to you are living in the fear of constant danger. In order for love to over-ride fear we need to feel safe and God is our answer.  So do not fear, for I am with you,  do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Psalm 41:10 

 Also, There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears has not been made perfect in love. I John 4:18

◘          Relational intimacy fades with relationships and with God. Intimacy is God's idea because he is intimate in his relationship to us. He tends his flock like a shepherd. He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those who have young. Isaiah 10:11. Within Intimacy there is a combination of openness, honesty and trust. All three of these components must be exercised for us to be moving in intimacy.  

 ◘          Trust is lost. Surely you desire truth in the inner parts, you teach me wisdom in the inmost place. Psalm 51:6. Trust that has been broken can be difficult to restore again, but is essential if we are to share the deep things of our hearts. Once we have been betrayed it is easy to think that everyone will betrays us, it is just a matter of time. this is a lie we are believing and we will need to trust others at some point to break this lie.

◘          Punishment is confused with Godly wisdom. Because the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes everyone he accepts as a son. Hebrews 12:6.  Most of us have a difficult time separating the difference between punishment and godly discipline. The reason we have a problem with this is because parental ardiscipline was harsh and without love as a basis. Let me explain, the goal of Godly discipline is to correct our behavior for our good, where punishment is just about dealing with the problem and has no intent to make us a better person. One reaps godly character and a repented heart, the other reaps a hard heart and fear. Our fathers disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, that we may share in his holiness. Hebrews 12:10

◘          Insecurity replaces security. He will have no fear of bad news; his heart is steadfast, trusting in the Lord. His heart is secure, he will have no fear; in the end he will look in triumph on his foes. Psalm 112:7-8. When we feel secure in love, fear does not take root in our hearts. When we feel insecure, fear drives us to places we do not want to go. It robs us of having a content and steadfast heart. We are blown from one person to another and one place to another like a ship without a sail.

  We will stop here for today and begin next week with how hidden issues affect our day to day lives. thank you for reading and I hope to be with you next week. Have a peaceful day.

Love Dee