Good Morning Friends
This morning in our anger series, we will be looking at "The Strongholds of Anger". What is a Stronghold? A stronghold is a powerful force that has made a strong impression on our mind or imagination to the point of it not being easily overthrown or altered. Thank you for joining me this morning, so let's get right to it....
How do we expose the real issues that hide beneath anger?
◘ First, there needs to be a willingness of the person to want to go deeper. Resistance within ourselves will prevent us from looking deeper. No one can force us to look at or deal with anything unless we want to. Our growth spiritually/emotionally rely's on us and God! There may be others who will come and go in that process that may help us along the way, but how far we go in our healing and freedom depends on our willingness to do whatever it takes for us to be healed.
◘ We need to stop the game-playing and be honest about what is really going on. Game playing is an attempt to avoid the real issues. It is an attempt to cause people who may want to help us to get dis-tracted and give up on talking about the real issues. This will only delay the process of healing. Game playing becomes a stronghold in our lives that teaches us that "avoidance is better than reality and honesty".
◘ We must move away from talking in generalities and be specific about situations/problems and our relationship with others and God. This is also a form of game playing. It is never being totally honest, but rather talking in partial truths. Until we start being honest with ourselves, others and God we will stay where we are and in bondage.
◘ There needs to be trust established between you and others if you are to share the deeper issues and be set free. Insecurity comes from a loss of value and worth. Our insecurity is rooted in abandonment, betrayal and fear. If we are to get to the deeper issues of our life we will need to trust again.
Trust is not found within those who say one thing but do another, but rather, in people who do what they say and say what they mean. Look for godly people to share your heart with, who love the Lord and have your best interests at heart.
There are two types of anger:
◘ Anger that is expressed (outwardly)
◘ Anger that is held in; (inwardly). Another word for this is passivity.
How does ‘control' quench the deeper issues?
◘ It prevents a person from being truly ‘honest about who they really are. Control has to be 'in charge' at all times. Control is a means used to keep everything around us moving in a way that makes us feel safe and secure. In other words, 'no surprises'. The problem with this is, there is no way we can make that happen even if we try. Trying to control everything around is not only a sin before God but is causes us to distant ourselves from others. Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Come near to God and he will come near to you. James 4:7
◘ Control is always ‘trying to have its own way’ in every situation.. The mind of sinful man is death, but the mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace; the sinful mind is hostile to god. It does not submit to God’s law, nor can it do so. Those controlled by the sinful nature cannot please God. Romans 8:6-8
It diverts us in a different direction all-together instead of where we need to stay focused, keeping us from exposing the deeper problems that are driving the anger in the first place.
◘ It keeps others and God at a distance preventing us from getting the help we need. Control robs us of the very thing we want, leaving us with what we don't want. In other words, control causes others to leave us and it distances us from God, preventing us from seeing the true state of our heart..
Therefore judge nothing before the appointed time; wait till the Lord comes, He will bring to light what is hidden in darkness and will expose the motives of men’s hearts. at that time each will receive his praise from God. I Corinthians 4:5
We will finish with this today and next week we will start with "Passivity" which will conclude our series on anger. Here are some words for thought. Have a great day
1. Do you use anger to cover up other more vulnerable emotions?
2. Do you “get upset” when you can’t have your own way?
3. When you feel angry do you withdraw and shut down?