Good Morning Friends
Today we will finish up Lesson 6 on "The Root Causes of Rejection". I hope you are enjoying this series and sending them on to friends. thank you as well for the feed back. email me anytime at firstname.lastname@example.org Lets get started:
Common Behavior Patterns of Rejection
Note: People who have grown up with rejection, grow up with unresolved wounds. Rejection causes emotional wounds left unresolved to fester and grow into spiritual wounds (such as un-forgiveness, envy, blaming God, jealously, etc).
Patterns of Rejection-The person struggles with:
▪ A lack of Assertiveness. They don’t speak up and let others know how they feel about something, especially if there opinions differ from that of others.
▪ A self-defeated state of mind that makes you believe you are “second best”.
▪ Trouble recognizing/identifying rejection in our own personal life even when it is being clearly pointed out.
▪ A common belief that there is “something physically wrong with me” that is unattractive to others.
▪ Being Rebellious
▪ The tendency to Reject others before they reject you.
▪ The need to fit in or be accepted by others and to become a part of what is going on even if it is not healthy/good for us.
▪ The inability to receive constructive criticism.
▪ A Self- Focus outlook that is all about what they are doing and who they are.
The Root of Rejection…”Where does it come from”?
The root of rejection is the result of a misplaced identity. Whenever we base our identity on somebody or something other than what God’s Word has to say about us, we make ourselves vulnerable to the damage of rejection.
His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature and escape the corruption in the world cause by evil desires. 2 Peter 1:3-4
Steps to overcome Rejection
▪ Rejection issues will not be fully settled until we take ownership of what God’s Word tells us about who we truly are in Him.
▪ Tearing down strongholds of rejection is as simple as receiving with childhood faith what God’s Word has to say about your identity.
How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him. 1 John 3:1
Now if we are children, then we are heirs—heirs of God and coheirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory. Romans 8:17
And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, in order that in the coming ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness to us in Christ Jesus. Ephesians 2:6-7
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ. Ephesians 1:3
This righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus. Romans 3:22-23
I in them and you in me. May they be brought to complete unity to let the world know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me. John 17:23
Note: Intentional rejection is basically emotional abuse and it wounds a person’s spirit. Regardless of how much or how little, the wounds of rejection can go deep and be very painful.
These wounds must be healed if we are to be totally free.
Note: Whenever we feel hurt and pain from rejection, it is because “our identity is depending on what others think of us”.
When a person’s identity is not depending on what others think, their heart becomes immune to the damage that rejection can cause and that damage is blocked from taking affect.
What is the key to not letting rejection take hold in our lives? Knowing that we are loved in Christ and in Him our identity has great value and worth.
Things to ponder
1. Would you consider yourself a ‘fearful’ person, If so why?
2. Do you feel that people reject you and if so, how do you deal with that rejection?
3. Do you feel like there is something wrong with you and that is why others reject you?
4. Do you put up walls of self-protection to keep others at a distance?
We are finished with lesson 6 and next week we will begin with lesson 7-8, "Toxic Shame". thank you all for reading and your comments. Have a blessed day. see you next week.