Good Morning Friends
Today we will continue on with 'the many faces of anger'. I hope you are enjoying this topic and are passing them on to friends. Thank you for following these blogs and I hope they bless you. Please let me know if you like them, it helps me to know that what I am putting on these blogs are interesting to others. You can contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org
How is Anger expressed?
There are many ways here are a few:
◘ Passivity…Is a game of control that people play by avoiding situations they don’t want to engage in through their silent behavior.
Anger is not always presented as a 'threat'. It can be more 'subtle' and being passive is one of those ways. It is another way of being in 'control' of a situation without looking 'out of control'. It is easier for a passive person to blame another person who is being more expressive with their anger as being 'out of control'. In other words, they look like the better person by appearing to be in control of their anger when in truth they are just as out of control. they have just found a more deceptive way of handling it.
◘ Through Sarcasm. Sarcasm is a way of getting back at another person by picking and pecking at them sometimes using sick humor to make a point. Sarcasm is used as a way of making a point by putting down another person in the process. Humor can be a effective but sick way of deflecting the seriousness of the situation.
◘ Through Stubbornness and Rebellion. The Lord is slow to anger, abounding in love and forgiving sin and rebellion. Numbers 14:18. Stubbornness is a defient way of digging in our heals refusing to change or take personal responsibility for our actions and behaviors towards others and with God.
◘ Defensiveness....Defensiveness can rise up in a person when they feel like they are being 'judged unfairly'. Defensiveness is usually birthed out of our past and comes from situations where we had felt falsely accused and viewed as not being 'trustworthy'. Defensiveness comes into play when we feel like 'who we really are' is in question in the eyes of others.
◘ Being Compliant… Agreeing on the outside but resisting on the inside. A compliant person is also a "people Pleaser". they will agree even when they disagree. they are afraid of conflict and fear the loss of relationships even if those relationships are unhealthy. This unhealthy behavior breeds anger because instead of addressing things we don't like we suppress them and blame others for not treating us the way we feel we should be treated.
One of you will say to me: Then why does God still blame us? For who resists his will? But who are you, O man, to talk back to God? Shall what is formed say to him who formed it. Why did you make me like this? Romans 9:10-20
What does our anger tell us?
◘ We have fear issues (known or unknown)..There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. 1 John 4:18
◘ There are deeper spiritual and emotional issues to be resolved..Feeling anger from time to time is not wrong but harboring anger is. Where there are unresolved anger issues there is also unforgiveness. If we are to be free from unresolved anger we must forgive those who have wronged us.
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13
We will stop here today and finish up with this next week. Here are some questions for thought. See you next week. Blessings Dee
Questions to ponder:
1. Do you get angry when confronted?
2. Do you use anger to excuse your own behavior?