today we will begin with "unhealthy Communication". Communication is vital in all relationships. Communication is like the wind that drives a sailboat through the waters. Without communication a relationship is dead in the water, it will not go anywhere. So lets begin....
Drives people away.....Unhealthy Communication is as bad a 'no communication' at all. What does unhealthy communication consist of: 1. Being loud and aggressive, pushing others away. 2. Having to have the last say. 3. Not listening always doing the talking. 4. Controlling the conversations. These are just a few but you get the idea.
Hurts and wounds others.... Our words have the power to bring value and worth to others or they can tear a person down. The bible tells use..He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity. Proverbs 21:23. A lying tongue hates those it hurts, and a flattering mouth works ruin. Proverbs 26:23. There is power in our words so we need to be careful and weigh what we are going to say before we speak.
Is Meaningless...Talking to just be talking is meaningless and serves no real purpose. Here are Words to live by....Let us also be a good example of these words...But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken. For by your words you will acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned. Matthew 12:36-37 ....A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1....A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver. Proverbs 25:11
Non-Communication in Relationship:
Causes distance and instills loneliness within the human spirit....The lack of communication or no communication at all dries up the human spirit. This has been tested in labs where they isolate lets say a pair of mice where one is all alone, and over time the isolated mouse gets sick and dies for lack of companionship. There is no difference with humans, we also need connection, communication and love to live in a healthy enviroment.
Breeds mistrust and opens up the mind to vain Imaginations....Where there is the lack of communication, doors are opened to distrust and thoughts of all kinds. When communication is gone or is bad, we are automatically set up to doubt and question. the reason for this is a person does not know anything which leaves the mind to wonder and guess. this is easily stopped with proper communication.
Some of the reasons for the lack of communication is...fear, difficulity in communicating, keeping secrets, keeping the upper hand (control) and unresolved issues within themself and/or with others. We need to be open and honest in our relationships if we are to build strong and healthy bonds with one another.
Creates a deep wound as a result of hurt....Non communication hurts the other person and creates a wound. It is through sharing with one another that we get to know each other and if we are to build on making a strong relationship we have to talk to one another. Not talking sends a message of....'I don't care', I don't care about you', 'you are not important', and 'you are valued'.
We will continue on with this topic next week. please join us and I hope you have a great day and week.