Is Life Really Fair?

“For acquiring a disciplined and prudent life, doing what is right and just and fair”. Proverbs1-3

 Good Morning Everyone, thank you for joining me this morning. I so love hearing from you, thank you for your words they are encouraging and refreshing. Just as a reminder, our year- long curriculum “AWAKEN” will be starting the 4th class “Overcoming Fear” on July 18th at Emmanuel Fellowship in room 102-103 from 9:30-11:30. It runs every Monday morning and you can jump in anytime. Please come would love to see you.

 This morning we are going to be discussing a topic titled "Is Life Really Fair"? Part 1—We will continue with this topic next week. Most of us would agree that “life is not fair” would you agree? Even though we know it, it doesn’t change the fact that we can and do at times fall into the trap of feeling like everything and everyone is against us.

It is easy for us to focus on how we think we should be treated or want to be treated because we all want to be treated with respect and fairness. So, when we don’t get what we think we deserve how do we deal with that?

 Getting started, lets first define what is Unfairness? It is a sense of not getting’ our share’ of what we believe we should be getting, not being equally proportioned.

 At some point, every human being confronts the mysteries that caused Job to tremble in terror. Is God unfair? One option seemed obvious to Job’s wife: “Curse God and die!” she advised. Why hold on to a sentimental belief in a loving God when so much in life conspires against it? And in this Job-like century, more people than ever before have come to agree with her.

As we grow up, however, we discover that life is not always fair. We learn that people do not share equally. Perhaps our hearts were broken when someone we loved decided to leave us. Perhaps we lost money we had saved for years. Perhaps we were injured in an accident, or have had an extended illness. Perhaps someone deliberately harmed us or someone we love.

But most importantly, we also learn that when we share, we will still have enough. As children, we soon learn that when we share we gain our parents’ approval. So it is when we are standing in line waiting our turn, we learn not to cut in line, we learn to refrain from taking what is not ours – these are ways we learn to share. These life lessons teach us that when we are selfish we feel guilty and when we share we fill good about ourselves.

We have all asked the question “WHY”? The question of ‘Why’ in regard to the unfairness of life is often at its most basic level not a question at all. Rather it is a statement. The statement goes something like this: “What happened to me is unfair. I don’t deserve this. I am angry about this. No explanation about why this happened to me would be good enough, because it is not fair.  

Dwelling on unfairness doesn’t do anything to change it; in fact it actually affects our ability to do that since obsessive thinking drains our energy, magnifies our emotions, and keeps us more focused on problems than on the solution.

We can’t change mistreatment that happened in the past, but we can address mistreatment that’s happening now. We can’t change someone else’s decision or behavior if they aren’t willing to change. We can change how we respond to them. Next week we will dive deeper into this topic and explore How God sees this issue of unfairness. See you then.

Blessings, Dee

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