How do I measure up?

And you have forgotten that word of encouragement that addresses you as sons: “My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, and do not lose heart when he rebukes you, because the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes everyone he accepts as a son.

Hebrews 12:5

Good Morning Everyone and welcome to “Dee’s Thoughts”. I have asked myself this question and I am sure you have to. How do I measure up? This was a way of thinking I struggled with for years in my life and perhaps you have to or still do. Have you ever felt like this—“Do others love me for who I am?” “Discipline feels like punishment,” “Fear of what others will think,” well this is just a few examples but you see where I am going!

How well do you take criticism or correction? For many of us it is something we can struggle with and don’t handle very well. I didn’t use to because criticism meant to me that I was not measuring up!  We can either get defensive or ignore it. I was one of those people who would get defensive when someone would try and correct me about something. I didn’t understand why but now I do.

 I would take it personal. To me, correction was about what I was doing and came across as an attack on who I was as a person! I felt like (the motive of my heart) was being attacked when I was being corrected and I could never do anything right. Ever feel like that?  Now, I have come to realize that way of thinking and reacting was coming from my past and it was a character flaw in my life that needed to be corrected and redefined. God takes these character flaws seriously in our lives and wants to correct them so that we can grow and mature in a healthy way.

 Well, I am a prime example of how God can change a life! That is not me today. That timid insecure person is gone. He took a little farm girl, transformed her and called her to himself. We all have parents who raised us and disciplined us the best way they knew how. Perhaps at times that discipline did not feel very loving but we have all fallen short of doing everything just right.

 The point being—do we always do everything right? Of course we don’t and we should not expect that from others or from ourselves. God does not discipline us as our earthly parents did instead, his discipline is always done in love intended for our good, to correct us not to punish us. This kind of love can only come from God.

 If you struggle with your value and worth and pull away from God when you fear you are not measuring up, you are not alone. But take it from me (it is curable). Our value and worth comes from God not from man and He is in the business of transforming us into his image not our image. God knows our weaknesses and is patient with us. There is no safer place than in the arms of Jesus, He loves us just the way we are.

 Have a wonderful day, Dee