From Chapter Two - What Eyes Cannot See
Do I really see what lies beneath the color of those eyes looking back at me; do I recognize the pain, the loss, the hopelessness; do I really want to look beyond what I can only see with my eyes?
Shame is not always seen with the human eye. We need to see shame through eyes of love and care towards another person. Their shame is hidden deep in a place where love has failed to go. Looking through these eyes goes both ways. The one who feels shame cannot see the true state of their own heart, and, the one looking into the face of the one who feels shame, often fails to give what is really needed. There is a film that covers the heart of a shamed person that is hard to peel away. Even as it begins to come off, the tenderness that lies underneath takes time to heal. There needs to be willingness and desire for the film to be removed, and it needs a loving heart to remove it.
…….Shame is no respecter of persons and doesn’t care who it associates with as long as it is given some attention. Shame knows no limits and will attack any race and gender. It’s a part of life that can’t be avoided. Sometimes when we feel ashamed or embarrassed, it is due to getting ourselves in awkward situations that are very uncomfortable. We wish we had thought before speaking or acting, and now have done something that is regrettable and it’s too late to take it back. This word shame has the capability of bringing life or death and can be used for good or evil. It can draw us to God or push us away from Him. Let’s explore how God sees shame.
Anyone who trusts in him will never be put to shame. ROMANS 10:11
We see by this scripture that there is no shame in trusting the Lord. We can bring the shame that we feel to Him and He will remove it, cleanse us and set us free.
That if you confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. ROMANS 10:9
From Chapter 5 - Fear Driven
All of us are familiar with fear and experience it at different times in our lives. It is normal to feel fear, and yet, God has a lot to say about fear in the Bible.
God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him. In this way, love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment, because in this world we are like him. There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. I JOHN 4:16-18
This Scripture tells us that God has to be the center of our lives in order for us to be made perfect in love. The love of God removes the fear of punishment as we put our trust in Him.