The Trail of Broken Pieces has been written to help people who have lived or currently are living life through a cycle of painful and traumatic experiences. This book has three primary objectives for the reader:
Recognize unhealthy repetitive life cycles
Understand how pain and wounds hinder us spiritually
Learn how to be set free from spiritual and emotional strongholds
All of us experience painful things throughout the course of life. Though we may try our best to avoid these experiences, we quickly realize there is nothing we can do to avoid them and realize that pain is an inevitable part of life.
Even though we all experience pain, the way it affects each person can be different. Although there may have been some healing in the past, some people may still experience feelings of emotional bondage and need further healing from those experiences. We cannot put ourselves on a specific time-table for healing to occur, nor should others push us in the healing process. Everyone will approach this in a way that is right for them and, for some, it may take a little longer to get where they want to be.
The Trail of Broken Pieces is divided into two sections.
The first section The Broken Pieces, addresses unhealthy life cycles.
The second section, Matters of the Heart, addresses the condition of our heart emotionally and spiritually.
THE BROKEN PIECES
Will address the areas of trauma we experience, the survival methods we often employ and how they cloud our outlook on life. We will identify strongholds that keep us in bondage preventing us from moving forward. Past events in our childhoods, within our families and even other experiences outside those realms can impact us, causing unhealthy patterns that may still affect us today.
Unhealthy life cycles are the repetition of damaging life values that are passed from one person to another. Life values are passed from generation to generation. Those values, good and bad, shape our character and instill within us what we will believe from the beginning of our childhood into our adulthood. Unfortunately, depending on the healthiness or unhealthiness of the people passing on these values, they will either build up or tear down the identity of the person receiving them.
Working through these beliefs will open the eyes of the participants, helping them to identify what is true and what is a lie, which helps move them toward freedom and healing.
I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength…
MATTERS OF THE HEART
Will focus on applying practical steps to recovery from the effects of traumatic wounds. This process will lead us away from an emotional heart of bondage, to restoring relationships and bringing us back to a loving God who provides healing and forgiveness. We will specifically address wounded areas of the heart and show how easy it is for a wound to become sin by our attitude and responses to them. We will also look at the intents of our hearts and how they can change from being a non-sin issue to a sin issue. We will learn practical spiritual steps that will assist in leading us out of bondage, bringing us back to God and restoring relationships.
The heart is the key to our relationship with God as well as with others. When it is not right,and we struggle emotionally and spiritually, then all areas of life are affected and the heart becomes sick.
Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.Proverbs 13:12
We all identify with pain and suffering in our lives, but the bigger question is, “How do we handle pain and suffering when it occurs?” Even though life will always be filled with pain and suffering, when we embrace them we will find that what was once a source of pain can now become a path to healing.
Some of us allow pain and suffering to work for good in our lives by letting it bring about changes within us, forgiving others and allowing God to heal our wounds to set us free. Others simply cannot seem to make this transition.
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who havebeen called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28
In order for us to find freedom from past and present circumstances, we will need to cooperate with God in the process to attaining freedom. We should not question if freedom is for us or not, because Christ died for us so that we can be free.
It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. Galatians 5:1
We should not give up and allow life’s blows to have the final say. Instead, we need to persevere and take back what was taken from us and move forward. We cannot do this alone. We need others to help us along the way; in addition, we need to have a strong commitment and dependence upon God to walk us through the issues within our hearts and to change us into new people.
THE BIG PICTURE
Recognizing how we got to where we are is one part of the journey, but it is also equally important for us to know what has to change so we can be set free.
Processing the condition of our heart is critical if we are to restore our relationship with others and with God. Our spiritual freedom is the key to our emotional freedom. We cannot heal ourselves, and the sooner we realize that we are helpless to do this in our own strength, the more likely we will align ourselves with God’s way of doing things!
The healing process requires addressing both sections. If we try to rush the process by eliminating the parts that are uncomfortable to us, we will run the risk of our healing being incomplete and possibly cycling through the same patterns again.
Our healing lies within our choice to either press ahead or stay where we are. No one can make that choice for us. Do not be too quick to give up too soon. There is usually an emotional and spiritual curve that we will face if we are to prevail. That curve most generally involves perseverance and steadfastness in the process. If we give up too quickly, we may miss what is around the corner.
Healing requires two steps:
Step 1: looking back
Step 2: reaching forward.
We usually need to look back just long enough to give us the tools to reach forward. We should never stay in one place for too long; it is not healthy emotionally or spiritually.
Change is available for all of us if we really want it! But we do not have to do it by ourselves. There is good news for all of you who press into this journey of healing. It will be challenging but there are great benefits waiting for you at the end. Remember, you are not alone! There are others to help you and a loving God walking beside you every step of the way.
SAMPLE CONTENT From Chapter 6 - Wounds
When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly. He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; by his wounds you have been healed. I Peter 2:23-24
Woundsare poison to the soul and play an important role in attaining healing and spiritual freedom. They need to be recognized, addressed and incorporated with other heart issues to obtain complete healing. Painful experiences and unresolved pain (wounds) can cloud the real issues that keep us separated from God and others. But when those painful areas are exposed and brought to the surface, the issues of our heart also become clearer and our eyes are opened to setting things right before God and man.
The goal of this section will be to focus on affected areas of the heart that may not have been sinful in the beginning, however, now they run the risk of becoming sin issues.
SAMPLE CONTENT From Chapter 10 - Unforgiveness
When we have done everything we know to do, but still feel trapped and in bondage, we can safely assume there are still some unresolved issues. Most of us do not like to face the fact that sin may have a hold on us, whether it is our own personal sin or the sin of others. The truth is, dealing with the issue of sin is not only a critical step we must take, but is a necessary step if we are to cross over into the final frontier of our healing.
Sin likes to hide and wait for the right opportunity to destroy and separate us from the love of God. Its goal is to convince us we have no value in the sight of God and to cause our failures to turn against us leaving us with no hope but to carry the heavy burden we believe we deserve. Sin is a part of our human nature and it wants to fulfill all the desires of our flesh. Since there is always the possibility of sin creeping into our lives, this brings us to a great need for a savior and the redemptive work of the cross. God knew we could not save ourselves and unless a way was made for us, we were going to be eternally separated from His great love.
You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous man, though for a good man someone might possibly dare to die. But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:6-8
“Where, O death, is your victory? Where, O death, is your sting?” The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through ourLord Jesus Christ. I Corinthians 15:55-57